Tuesday, September 16, 2014

to travel: katikies hotel-oia, greece

I'm pretty sure this is heaven on earth, right?

If you need me, I'll be planning my next vacation to Greece. Because seriously.

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Monday, September 15, 2014

psychological lifehacks.

I saw these on pinterest a few months ago, and found it to be so fascinating. Some of them I have taken to heart and really use in my life now. I was just going to share my favorite ones, but reading through them again, they're all pretty great.

#1. When you first meet people try to notice their eye color while also smiling at them. It might be because you look for a second or two longer, but all I can tell you is that people really respond to it. 
#2. Pay attention to people’s feet. If you approach two people in the middle of a conversation, and they only turn their torsos and not their feet, they don’t want you to join in the conversation. Similarly if you are in a conversation with a coworker who you think is paying attention to you and their torso is turned towards you but their feet are facing in another direction, they want the conversation to end. You should check out Carol Kinsey Goman’s research on these types of things in the workplace. 
#3. Foot-in-the-door phenomenon. People are more likely to agree to do a task for you if you ask them to do something simpler first. (Gradual Commitment… makes people them think you like them) 
#4. Alternatively you ask them to do an unreasonable task, and they’ll say no, so then you ask for what you wanted, a much more reasonable task, and they’re more likely to agree that way. 
#5. If you ask someone to do you a small favor, cognitive dissonance will make them believe that because they did that favor, they therefore must like you. (Ben Franklin) 
#6. If you ask someone a question and they only partially answer just wait. If you stay silent and keep eye contact they will usually continue talking. 
#7. Chew gum when you’re approaching a situation that would make you nervous like public speaking or bungee jumping. I can’t remember where I heard it but apparently if we are ‘eating’ something in our brains trip and it reasons ‘I would not be eating if I were danger. So I’m not in danger’. Has helped calm me a few times. 
#8. Avoid the sidewalk shuffle by looking intently over the person’s shoulder, or between people’s heads in a group. Your gaze shows them where you’re going. They’ll drift toward the opposing side / create a gap to avoid you. 
#9. When you’re studying/learning something new, teach a friend how/about it. Let them ask questions. If you’re able to teach something well, you understand it. 
#10. People will remember not what you said but how you made them feel. 
#11. For interviews I recommend altering your psychological state beforehand. Tell yourself “I’ve known these people all my life. We’re old friends catching up. I can’t wait to see them”. Visualize the experience, shaking hands, making eye contact, having conversation. What things can you not to wait to tell them? Hold an open pose…stand with your legs apart, hands on your hips, and shoulders back while doing this and SMILE. This may sound cliche but you are in charge of your own psychological state and the power of suggestion is strong. 
#12. If you get yourself to be really happy and excited to see other people, they will react the same to you. It doesn’t always happen the first time, but it will definitely happen next time. 
#13.  My personal favorite is when people are angry at me; if I stay calm it’ll get them even angrier, and be ashamed about it after. 
#14. If you have a warm hand when you shake somebody’s hand, you immediately become a more desirable person to get along with. 
#15. People have a certain image of themselves and will fight tooth and nail to cling to it. Use this information wisely. You can make people dislike you by attacking their self-image. 
#16. False attribution of arousal. When you take somebody out on a first date, take them somewhere exciting that will get their heart beating. e.g. roller coaster or horror film. This gets their adrenaline up. It makes them think they enjoy spending time with you rather than the activity. 
#17. The key to confidence is walking into a room, and assuming everyone already likes you. 
#18. The physical effects of stress (increased breathing rate, heart rate ect.) mirror identically the physical effects of courage. So when you’re feeling stress from any situation immediately reframe it: your body is getting ready to do courage, it’s not feeling stress. A great example of cognitive reframing, researchers found that you do better when you appraise a stressful situation as a challenge, not a threat 
#19. Refer to people you’ve just met by their name. People loving being referred to by their name, and it will establish a sense of trust and friendship right away… 
#20. If you make the biggest smile you can, you will automatically feel happier 
#21. The moment your alarm wakes you up, immediately react by sitting up, pump your fists and shout “YEAH!” 
#22. Always give your kid a choice that makes them think they are in control. For instance when I want him to put his shoes on I will say ,”do you want to put your star wars shoes on or your shark shoes on?” 
#23. People are extraordinarily aware of their sense of touch. If someone (a member of the opposite sex?) ‘Accidentally’ rests their knee on yours, let’s say, they know it’s there.

Friday, September 12, 2014

words.

“New York remains what it has always been : a city of ebb and flow, a city of constant shifts of population and economics, a city of virtually no rest. It is harsh, dirty, and dangerous, it is whimsical and fanciful, it is beautiful and soaring - it is not one or another of these things but all of them, all at once, and to fail to accept this paradox is to deny the reality of city existence.” 

― Paul Goldberger

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Thursday, September 11, 2014

thursday. (suits edition.)

After years of begging from my brother Alex, I finally had the means to watch Suits (my friend's DVDs. why this show isn't streamed anywhere is beyond me.)

In typical me fashion, I'm completely obsessed. I mean, any show that spends part of the pilot episode having one character lecture another character about the importance of a good, well-fitted suit, I'm all in.

I adore Harvey. Who wouldn't? But more than that, I adore the work relationships that the show creates. I love how Harvey mentors Mike, yet you know he views him as a close friend. And more than anything, I love Harvey and Donna's relationship. They have the perfect banter, and he very clearly knows he would be completely lost without her.

If you don't watch this show, you should. It's light and fun, but insightful, and and you really love the characters (which is what USA is best at.)

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{every suit. every time.}

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{my favorite episode and scene to date. this image is everything.}

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{I love this image.}

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{obviously.}


Happy Thursday. 

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

my photography website.

Although I constantly post all my photos here, I've created a website for my photography - marykatephoto.com.

It's still a work in progress, many photos are up, but I still have many more to go through and upload. But for now, if you want to check it out, here it is.

All photos are for sale - although the images in the "people" section are for examples of child photography I do and not really for sale. Still a work in progress for setting up the "sale" part of it all, but just now, they can be purchased.

Even though it's terrifying to show my work, I'm kind of excited by this.

You can also follow for more images on instagram @marykatephotos

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*if you like the logo, I have to give credit to my boss since he designed it. I love how it turned out.